Resources: Sexual Purity
- Mon, Mar 22, 2010
- Sexual Purity
Randy Alcorn spoke with Building Church Leaders on the importance of sexual integrity for churches, leaders, and families today.
Your son desperately needs your help now. He simply can't do this on his own. I highly recommend making an appointment with a Christian counselor immediately.
- Wed, Mar 24, 2010
- Sexual Purity
My fiancé and I have been sexually active, have repented, and really desire to be obedient to God, but continually return to the same sin.
You must recognize your vulnerability and protect yourself from situations where you are tempted.
I used the phrase “technological Corinth” in 1985 when I published my first book, Christians in the Wake of the Sexual Revolution. Corinth was the immoral city in the first century, and 1 and 2 Corinthians refer to all the immorality in the church’s midst. Everywhere out on the streets there were prostitutes, a thousand priestesses of Aphrodite. It was a degenerate culture.
In the '80s, there was the advent of VCRs and places where you could rent a VHS or Beta tape. (If you remember Beta, like me, you are now officially old.) You could rent a Disney movie as well as an inappropriate movie you could watch in the privacy of your own home, instead of going to a porn theater where you might be seen. That in and of itself was an incredible revolution in making lust and sexual sin more secretive and easier to get away with. (Seemingly, but of course God sees all and judges all, and our sexual sins hurt our families and others too.)
The Purity Principle includes practical guidelines to protect purity, for singles, for married couples, and for parents who wish to train their children in purity. These include controlling the television and internet, and offering alternatives for how to spend our time. It also includes confession, repentance and developing biblical accountability that doesn’t just admit sin, but prevents it.
I cannot emphasize enough the importance of drawing on the indwelling power of the risen Christ. Self-reformation is not enough. It may bring limited benefits, but it will lead to self-righteousness, not Spirit-empowerment—and nothing sets us up for moral failure like self-righteousness.
Suppose I said, “There’s a great-looking girl down the street. Let’s go look through her window and watch her undress, then pose for us naked, from the waist up. Then this girl and her boyfriend will get in a car and have sex—let’s listen and watch the windows steam up!”
You’d be shocked. You’d think, “What a pervert!”
But suppose instead I said, “Hey, come on over. Let’s watch Titanic.”
Christians recommend this movie, church youth groups view it together, and many have shown it in their homes. Yet the movie ...