What Encouragement Do You Have for Fathers?
In this video interview with Julia Stager, EPM staff member, she asks, “What encouragement do you have for fathers?”
Randy: It’s a huge job, and fathers need encouragement. One of the things I think about is what Scripture says in 1 Thessalonians 2:12. Paul says when he was with the Thessalonians, he was encouraging them, comforting them, and urging them to live a life worthy of the Lord. When it comes to being a father, we tend to skip right to the urging: “Make our children be obedient. Make sure they are good. Make sure they do the right things.” You know, telling them what to do.
I think Paul gives a good model when he talks about first encouraging and comforting children. Because when you are there to encourage and comfort your children, then you’ve got a relational basis for when the time comes that you have to urge them to behave the right way.
Does that make sense?
Julia: Absolutely! I think the father/son or father/daughter relationship is so important to the child. First establishing that foundational relationship is going to make the truth you speak into their lives much better received.
Randy: Yes. We have to come to our children with grace and with truth. That’s a huge job for fathers. But the thing I would say to encourage fathers in this process of parenting is that God is a father. God totally understands what it means to be a dad and that sometimes children will rebel. He understands that you are first His child and only second are you a father.
So learn, as a child of God, what you love and enjoy about your Father in Heaven. Then seek to be that kind of father to your children.
Julia (Stager) Mayo holds a Master of Arts in Biblical and Theological Studies from Western Seminary, where she works as an administrative assistant. She was previously part of the Eternal Perspective Ministries staff, and still does occasional research work for Randy Alcorn.