I think we need to ask not merely “am I giving to get?” but “What and from whom am I giving to get?”
Jesus said in John 5:44 “How can you believe if you accept praise from one another, yet make no effort to obtain the praise that comes from the only God?”
He said we should not live for the approval of people. But He also says we should very much want to get God’s approval (we’re not talking about earning our salvation, but pleasing the Father we love).
So God wants us to obey him in order to get. To get his praise, his approval.
Jim Elliot gave in order to get: “...who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose.”
When Scripture says we will stand before him and hear him say “Well done,” should we want to hear him say “Well done”? Of course.
If that sounds unspiritual, it’s only because we fail to understand how God has made us and how good it is and pleasing to God it is that we as His children would want to hear him say “Good job. I’m pleased. I’m proud of you.”
In fact, God’s approval is the most basic of rewards, and all other rewards of “treasures in Heaven” and ruling over cities and all that stems from God’s generosity that He heaps upon His children because He’s pleased with us.
Scripture clearly and repeatedly shows us we should want eternal reward, and seeks to motivate us by it. Jesus said “It is more blessed to give than to receive.” So is it wrong to seek God’s promised blessing that comes with giving? No. It is right. He’s the one who promises us.
Read the beatitudes. They encourage us through the promise of eternal reward. We’re supposed to want that reward. That’s the point of Jesus offering it as an encouragement to have right attitudes. That’s how the motivation works. If we don’t want to get what Christ promises, then the beatitudes fall flat.
We should seek to please our Lord, to meet the needs of the poor and needy, to be an encouragement to others, etc. But if we “believe that He is a rewarder” then it is right, not wrong, to also want to get God’s blessing and reward. For that blessing and reward is good, not bad, for it comes from His hand, and we should want to receive what comes from Him; we should crave what He, in his marvelous grace, offers us, including reward; to want it and seek it and be motivated by it is to do what He calls us to do; and if we remember who He is, and that He gives us grace and empowers us to obey, and that the ultimate glory is His, then our motives will be right, not wrong.
We are givers, but our giving is but a thunder. God’s grace is the lightning. We love because He first loved us, and we give because He first gave to us. It starts with God, not us. He is the creator, we are the creatures. He made us first to be receivers, then secondly to be givers. So wanting to obtain blessing, treasures in Heaven, praise from God, etc. is not inherently wrong, but can and should be good and pleasing to God.
My son-in-law just got his master’s degree a few weeks ago. His grandmother generously tells her grandkids that when they graduate she wants to take them (and spouse) on a one-week vacation to the place of their choice. They just returned from Maui (and we got to take care of our grandson!). Everyone had a wonderful time. And guess who was pleased more than anyone else? Grandma. 70 years old and snorkeling in the deep water and gasping at the turtles and loving just being with her precious (grown) grandchildren.
Now, what if Dan and Angie had said, “No grandma, we worked hard at school not so we could get reward or please you, but because it was our duty; it needed to be done. Thanks for offering the free trip, but no thanks; we don’t want it.”
Now, by one definition that would be selfless and admirable. But not by my definition. More importantly, not by Scripture’s. (And was it wrong to be motivated by the promise of their week’s vacation when making the sacrifices of school? Of course it wasn’t wrong. It was right and good. God, not Satan, made us to be motivated by the promise of reward. Hebrews 6 tells us we must believe God is a Rewarder. That is Theology 101.)
Here’s what I think we should really want to get in that day we stand before our Jesus: the pleasure of hearing Him say “Well done” and the pleasure of seeing the look of approval on His face, as he says “Enter into the Joy of Your Lord.” To know that by his grace, we who deserve Hell have somehow (oh great mystery) made God happy and now we will love and serve Him forever in a world without sin and curse and death...could it get any better than that?
That is the “getting” we were made for—and the getting that pleases Him, and the getting He died to give us. And the getting that will be repeated and expanded and multiplied throughout all eternity, to His delight and ours.
First, for His glory; second, for our good.