I’ve been searching online for something to help you concerning purgatory, and I’m not happy with anything I’ve found. Some are brief, but too brief, don’t cite sufficient Scripture, and are just too shallow.  

There’s a difference between talking to someone and praying to them, and if we keep that clear, I think that’s the key. 

I still can’t get around Christ’s words in Matthew 22, which seem to clearly refute the Sadducee’s assumptions that if there were a resurrection, it would mean marital partnerships from earth would carry over to the resurrected life, and therefore people would have multiple spouses.

I believe that as finite human beings who will live in space and time, we will go through a never-ending process of learning in Heaven, in that we will learn MORE as time goes on (Eph. 2:7). However, 1 Cor. 13:12 seems to suggest there will be immediate clarity of vision in God’s presence.

The teaching of the evangelical community has been 99.9% on the side of infant salvation. That's certainly where my heart is, and after reflecting on Scripture, if I had to put money on it, I'd put it on infants going to heaven when they die. But the difficulties involved are considerable.

The answer is yes, at least to some extent.

Based on scriptural evidence, I believe the answer is "yes."

In Heaven, we will recall some—likely most or all—of our lives on earth.  This is among the most controversial beliefs I’ve presented in my books, yet there’s clear scriptural evidence for it.

When we die we go to be with Christ (II Cor. 5:8) which is wonderful. But we are still incomplete, in a pre-resurrected state, anticipating Christ's return to earth, and our resurrections. The place we'll live forever will be where God comes down to dwell with us, on the New Earth (Revelation 21:1-3).